Now that you’re engaged, you already know that wedding planning will take up a lot of your time, energy, and normal thought processes. Suddenly, your life is all about the wedding and people start asking all kinds of questions about your plans. You may be surprised to find that this time can be a fulfilling, connected experience.

First off, enjoy your engagement. If you have a year or more to plan, give yourself (and your fiance) time to let it all sink in. Begin by envisioning the type of wedding that fits both of you. Browse through magazines and websites to get ideas of different weddings you like. Talk to family and friends to share your excitement, and former brides about their weddings.

Then get organized. No matter how you handle other areas in your life, your wedding is something you will want to be organized with from the start. There are many options to stay on top of your planning: computer spreadsheets and calendars, files, binders with labeled dividers, and internet checklists. Register on a wedding website to get started, then work with a system that makes sense to you.

It’s a good idea to have at least 3 vendors as choices in each category. As you browse their websites and talk to them personally, eliminate those that don’t appeal to you. Save all quotes and paperwork in your notebook or files. Write down what you like and dislike about each one, including pricing, style, personality, and wedding knowledge.

Use Email when you can—you’ll have written information and can make the most of your time. You may not know exactly what kind of dress, music, food, or flowers you want. Don’t worry; once you begin speaking to vendors, you’ll find yourself narrowing down your specifics—I had no idea what kind of flowers I wanted until I spoke to a florist and realized my comments were leading me in a certain direction.

Make the most of your appointments by coming prepared with a visual idea of what you want and the amount you are comfortable spending. Bring a friend or family member for an outsider’s opinion—it’s easy to get carried away in all the extravagant options. The more prepared you are with your wedding vision, the easier it is to recognize appropriate options.